Deck used: The Fountain Tarot
Spread used: 2 cards. Shuffle and draw the first card from to center the reading. Draw your second card to cross it.
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Dear Mel, I have a contentious relationship with a very close family member. We have very different worldviews, and I feel like I have to be on the defensive all the time. She seems to enjoy making me suffer, and I feel like I have to choose between my family and my peace of mind. The rift between us has been widening for years and at this point trying to talk to this person to appeal to their empathy and humanity further entrenches us both. I know you can’t pick your family, but if it were up to me this person wouldn’t be in my life.
Can the tarot offer any insight on the best way to deal with this relationship? I’m at a loss.
Deep gratitude, Fallout Girl.
Dear Fallout Girl, thanks for your note.
Oh boy does this resonate with me. There are certain people in all our lives like that right? Let’s check in with the cards but first some show business.
This weeks deck is the beautiful Fountain Tarot. The spread is a two card draw based on the heart of the Celtic Cross. The first card centers the reading. The second card shines light on the big problem.
The first card, lucky #13. Death. And I even drew it in reverse.
You said you can’t pick your family and yet you recognize your life would be better without the influence of this person. I can’t help but think of all the survivors, strugglers and scrappers in the world who’ve done just that. Escaped toxic and abusive relationships, and gone on to find their soul family elsewhere.
I know several because we’re soul family. They didn’t choose the blood they were born with, sure, and I don’t know your exact details, but Fallout Girl, I want to be very clear that if your relationship is abusive–either mental, physical, or emotional–you have permission, I will grant it right here and now, to walk.
May the bridges you burn light the way.
The Death card is your invitation to evaluate this relationship and decide whether to let it go or transform it completely. Either way, things can’t go on like this.
If you want to stick it out. If you feel there’s any chance for redemption, then you’re going to need to grab hold of a really big stick and prepared to defend the ramparts.
Your second card is the 9 of Wands.
This is a card for someone who has fought for every inch of ground gained and I’m afraid that’s exactly what you need to do here. Establish your boundaries and hold to them. If that means you don’t talk anymore or don’t talk for a while or that you’re the one that decides how and when to engage whatever healthy distance you need, you draw your line in the sand.
I’m afraid it won’t be easy. I’m afraid it might even hurt going forward.
I wish I had better news for you. I wish it was easy and I wish the people who should love us up the most weren’t capable of causing pain for you. For me. For all of us.
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